Couples therapy is for anyone who wants to get their relationship back on track. You may feel stuck in patterns that leave you disconnected. You may want to refresh a relationship that has grown stale. You may be reeling from betrayal, lying, and infidelity and want to do everything possible to save the marriage you once enjoyed. You may be newly engaged or married and want to build a foundation that will serve you for the rest of your relationship. Couples therapy is for everyone.
What are you facing? Defensive communication that shuts everything down. A lack of emotional connection that makes you feel alone even with your partner right there. Unsatisfying sexual intimacy. Escalating conflict. Infidelity. Contempt. Constant criticism. Feeling alone with the one person you were supposed to feel most known by.
What you really want is to break out of the patterns that got you here. You want to be able to communicate competently. You want to feel understood in conflict. You want to be able to resolve issues without unnecessary escalation. You want to feel like your marriage is a team again.
- Therapy for Infidelity and Affairs: I help couples facing the aftermath of betrayal by addressing the events that occurred, rebuilding the trust that has been lost, and helping the couple connect in ways they never thought possible after an affair.
- Therapy for Communication and Conflict: By identifying the patterns of conflict the couple is stuck in and giving both partners practical tools for speaking and listening, I help couples experiencing disconnection and escalating conflict so that they finally feel heard and seen by their partner.
- Therapy for Sex and Intimacy: I help couples experiencing differing sex drives, lack of intimacy, unsatisfying sex, performance anxiety, or sexual trauma by providing practical understanding around the science of sex and a gradual path toward enjoying each other again.
- Therapy for Premarital Couples: I help couples who want to build a lasting foundation by addressing patterns they saw in their parents’ marriages, how they communicate, relational roles, finances, how they solve conflicts, and how they can work as a team moving forward.
I use a combination of Family Systems therapy, Attachment science, and Relational Psychodynamic therapy. Family Systems therapy values the context you were born into, the relational patterns you learned, and the ways you can heal within the context of relationship. Attachment science provides a foundational understanding for how you grew up and how it shaped your personality, as well as where the healing needs to occur. Relational Psychodynamic therapy guides us as we navigate your defenses and coping strategies, your motivation and meaning for life, and where you need to grow.
With a Doctorate in Professional Counseling, I have extensive training and years of experience helping whatever you bring into therapy. I stay current in the field, consult and train with other clinicians, so you can experience long-lasting change.
Couples who do this work with me often tell me they begin to:
- Feel heard by their spouse
- Feel more connected to their partner on a daily basis
- Understand how their own family shaped their current relationship
- Navigate conflict with understanding and resolution
- Experience more satisfying sex and intimacy
- Enjoy and respect their partner again
- Finally feel like a team
A session is a collaborative and exploratory space. I’m here as a guide and expert on therapy, while you are an expert in your life and experience. You and I will work together in a confidential environment and unpack all that you are facing, both in the present and in the past — and you can set the pace.
In our first sessions together I want to balance hearing all of the present painful symptoms and conflict you are experiencing with getting to know your history and background, which provides context for the work as we explore it. Our first sessions are a place for you and me to get a sense of what treatment would look like and see if we are a good fit together.
The following sessions are a combination of processing the events of your week balanced with exploration into your personalities, patterns, and relationship history as we progress. Sessions are typically 50 minutes, scheduled once a week. I also offer 2–3 hour intensives for couples who want to get deeper into the work.
I want to attune to and collaborate with each of my patients — meeting them where they are and journeying with them as a guide toward their goals. We will regularly discuss your goals and what is getting in the way to make sure you are getting the help you need.
